Ranklement, bitterness, indignation at having been treated unfairly, anger, ill will, displeasure, outrage, umbrage, pique, malice, hurt, wrath and vexation
Vicki Tidwell Palmer
Poisoned Mind – Poisoned Body
Living with resentment is like taking poison expecting the other guy to get sick. This means you are the one that suffers.
Wikipedia – Resentment is a complex, multilayered emotion that has been described as a mixture of disappointment, disgust, anger and fear – unfairness. It is a generalized defense against a perceived unfair situation.
Resentment is a terrible emotion and one most of us don’t realise that we are carrying it around. This emotion is a draining resource creating stress and overwhelming any positive emotion. It can result from situations involving a perceived wrong doing from an individual or feeling used, taken advantage of, your achievements go unrecognized, emotional rejection or denial from another person or deliberate belittling or embarrassment by another person. The list could go on.
Resentment could also be about holding onto past grievances or holding a grudge.
Resentment has a strong component of SELF PUNISHMENT – we mistreat or distrust others as pay back for the perceived grievance but we are actually hurting ourselves. Resentment can be self diagnosed by looking for signs of faking happiness, dejection, sadness, dull ache inside, unhappy, anger, disturbed sleep and resentment shows in every line of the the face. Resentment is also a relationship destroyer be it friend or partner.
Resentment isn’t only about big issues it can also be about little niggly things that go on around the house like clothes dropped on the floor, not doing the washing up, playing to much golf, watching television for too long. The list is endless.All these little things may make you feel you are being treated unfairly, making you feel piqued and angry. All these little things may make you feel you are being treated unfairly, Life is short, time spent feeling umbrage, rancour or displeasure about things that happened or didn’t happen is time squandered. Approach this emotion as an addictive state of mind – overthinking. Using resentment to get back at whoever is only punishing yourself. Acknowledge you cannot control the person who you perceived to have wronged you. Forgive.
Definition of PERCEIVE
- “become aware or conscious of. Come to realise or understand
- “INTERPRET OR REGARD SOMEONE OR SOMETHING IN A PARTICULAR WAY.
SO SOMEONE SAYS SOMETHING OR DOES SOMETHING
we are not happy about,
NEGATIVELY and Resentfully
One must remember that the person has every right to do what they want to do, its’ their life.
IT IS HOW WE PERCEIVE THE ACTION THAT CAUSES THE PROBLEM.
What we need to learn is to not react. It is important. Very easy to say I know but it works. It’s the way we look at the problem, not actually the problem itself.
Taken from THE CHOICE – Embrace the Possible By Dr. Edith Ava Eger (-Holocaust survivor.
I recommend everyone to read this book.
BY ALWAYS MEASURING ALL THE WAYS HE FALLS SHORT I HAVE STOPPED COUNTING WHO HE IS AND WHAT HE OFFERS. THE NEGATIVITY OF MY THOUGHTS ISN’T A SIGN OF SOMETHING WRONG WITH OUR RELATIONSHIP IT IS THE VOID I CARRY WITHIN ME.
LET IT GO
As usual if you choose to work with my experiences you must take full responsibility for your own actions.