I think People Pleasing is appropriate to run alongside seeking approval. The need to please is like a compulsion for some people and again it is done to receive a feeling of well being. I even find myself wanting to help strangers in the street but I do manage to refrain, they would probably think I was nuts. I now know, through my work, that my need to please stems from my childhood. Being a member of a large family, all with their own vital characters, I think I decided to help or please as a way of getting attention. One of my first memories is being flicked affectionately on the chin by my mother, while she was telling my grandmother what a helpful child I was. All for ironing some handkerchiefs. I still love ironing hankies.
I have just found a new link for trying to understand the difference between People pleasing or just being kind. Good topic,
I have learnt that pleasing people is hard work and you end up full of resentment, anger and feeling so unappreciated. I have found a couple of interesting articles to help you understand why, how and what to do. Also as usual there will be a couple of links to tapping scripts to release the need to please.
Please take full responsibility for your own health
Use EFT To Release the Anxiety of People Pleasing – The Tapping Solution
Tapping with Brad Yates
The need to impress – Brad Yates
Being different to please others – Brad Yates
This article may help you from Healthline
Loads on here from VeryWell mind
And to round up a good Book by Patrick King
Go on and please yourself.